If you get to know me even a little, you know I love fast cars.
And, I love something even more than fast cars—driving them… really fast!
I just said goodbye to this one in favor of a new build. I got to drive this GT3RS for a little over a year. I loved it. I got to build it exactly the way I wanted it.
And it got me thinking and reminiscing a little bit.
When I was a kid, I used to go to a local dealership and just stand there… staring at the fastest car in the showroom.
And I grew up in Wichita, Kansas. So these cars, at that time, were literally behind velvet ropes with signs that said “Do Not Touch.”
For a 16, 17, 18 year old kid it was like they were untouchable, just not even possible.
I remember as I was looking at these cars, it wasn’t casual for me like “That’s kind of cool.” I remember staring at them and thinking “how does that happen?”
It was very intentional and there was a lot of energy being placed on it. I remember a lot of emotions in the space. Everything from feeling super inspired about what it would be like to have a car like that someday to feeling a sense of unworthiness and sadness because it seemed like it would never happen.
But I remember looking at it and thinking to myself, “How does that happen? How do I make that happen? How do I get that? How do I make that my reality? What is it that people do, who drive cars like this?”
And so the the thought process married to this intensity and this intentionality was, “how does it happen”
At the time, I had no framework for what I was doing.
But looking back, it’s obvious.
I was training intuition.
I was placing my attention — over and over again — on a specific outcome.
Not on what I didn’t have. Not on why it wasn’t possible.
But on: How do I create the resources to get a car like that?
And that’s exactly what we’re talking about this week.
Last week, we introduced intuition as Your Internal GPS.
We talked about how it’s always operating —
and that it’s either working by your design…
or it’s working by default.
This week, we take the next step.
Because there are three key elements that activate intuition.
And the first is: Focus.
More specifically — the intensity of your focus.
If there’s one thing to understand about focus, it’s this:
Without vision, it’s very difficult to know if your focus is actually useful.
So the first question isn’t: “What should I focus on?”
It’s: “What am I creating?” “What is my vision?”
Because once that’s clear, everything else becomes much simpler.
You can look at where your attention is going and ask:
Is this moving me toward the outcome I want… or not?
Without that context, the mind gets lost.
You can justify almost anything.
But with vision, focus becomes objective.
It’s either aligned. Or it isn’t.
The second thing to understand is the nature of the mind itself.
The mind is obsessive by design.
It will think about the same things again and again and again.
That’s not a flaw.
That’s the mechanism.
The mistake most people make… is trying to stop that process. You’re not going to stop that process, it's what the mind does. It’s how the brain works.
Instead, we want to leverage it.
Because if you don’t train your focus intentionally…it will be trained for you.
By other people.
By the news.
By social media.
By past experiences.
By fear.
So the goal is not to eliminate obsession.
It’s to direct it.
To become obsessive about:
And to do that under the assumption…
That it will occur. That the vision is going to happen. With a sense of faith.
Here’s something important to understand:
The brain does not distinguish between good or bad focus.
It doesn’t say: “Create this, don’t create that.”
It simply responds to where attention is placed.
Whatever you focus on…that’s where energy goes. And that’s what begins to take shape.
If you focus on failure — you move toward failure.
If you focus on fear — you reinforce fear.
If you focus on what you don’t want — you organize around it.
The brain doesn’t register “don’t.”
It registers the target that you’re focussed on.
Which is why trying to avoid something rarely works.
Because your attention is still on it.
Instead, focus needs to be placed fully on what you actually want to create.
A simple way to start building awareness is through what I call a focus audit.
At the end of each day, take a minute and ask yourself:
Where was my attention today? What did I focus on?
This isn’t about judgment, it’s about clarity.
Because once you see it, you can redirect it.
And say: “Tomorrow, I’m placing my focus here.”
Most people think outcomes are created in big moments.
They’re not.
They’re created in micro-focus events.
The way you place your attention:
Becomes:
Focus isn’t a small thing.
It’s the mechanism that shapes everything.
This isn’t just about external results.
It applies to your internal experience as well.
If you’re focused on: “Why am I sad?”
Your attention stays on sadness.
And the system can’t generate a solution.
But if you shift the question to: “What can I do to feel happy?” “Where am I already experiencing joy?” “What reasons do I have right now to be joyful?”
Now your focus moves toward the outcome.
Same thing in relationships.
If your attention is on:
You reinforce what isn’t working, what you don’t like, and what needs to change.
But if your focus becomes:
Now you’re training intuition toward the relationship outcomes you actually want.
If you want to start working with this practically, keep it simple.
Start with vision.
Write it down — clearly.
Bullet points are great.
Then make it visible.
Put it somewhere you’ll see it and interact with it regularly:
Look at it:
Five times is good.
Ten times is better.
50-100 times a day—now we’re talking!
Eventually, you want to get to a place where you’re thinking about it constantly.
Where the mind begins to default to it automatically.
The second part is how you relate to that vision.
Operate from the assumption:
It’s going to happen.
And consistently ask:
When you ask these questions consistently, the mind starts working in the background on your behalf.
This is where intuition really begins to activate.
The final piece is implementation.
What is the best action you can take right now, that moves the needle?
Put it in your calendar.
Execute on it consistently.
Because at the end of the day:
Vision without action is incomplete.
And intuition works best when it has something to move through…
Here’s the part most people miss.
Focus isn’t just about noticing things — like we talked about last week with the Subaru Outback example.
It’s about what you’re training your system to move toward.
For most people, that focus is scattered.
Or reactive.
Or pulled toward what they don’t want.
For me… it looked like standing in a dealership as a kid…
obsessing over a car I had no business owning yet.
But asking a very different question:
How do I make that happen?
That’s the difference.
After last week’s issue, a number of you wrote in with questions about how to actually train Intuition.
The good news is: We have a place to do exactly that.
At the beginning of May, we’re hosting the Power of Intuition Virtual Intensive.
It’s where we take everything we’re talking about in this series…
And actually train it — step by step, in real time.
Because what you’re reading here is one piece of a much bigger system.
Next week, we’re going to build on this with the second element:
Intensity of Emotion.
Because focus tells the system what matters…
But emotion determines how much it matters.
And when those two align, things start to accelerate.
If you’d rather watch or listen instead of read, you can find these teachings on YouTube or on The Connection Fix Podcast.
Some people like to sit with it.
Others take it on a walk.
I, myself, like to listen in the car!
However you train best — use that.
Before I wrap, take a moment to notice something.
Today (or yesterday if you’re reading this in the morning)…
Where did your attention actually go?
Not where you wanted it to go.
But where it actually went.
Was it aligned with what you want to create?
Or was it pulled toward something else?
And here’s the real question:
If that focus continued for the next 30 days… what will it produce?
More of what you want?
Or more of what you’ve been trying to change?
If you’re willing, send me an email and share what you noticed about your focus.
That awareness alone is the first step to redirecting it.
And if you’re ready to go deeper with this — and actually train your intuition in real time — we’ll be doing exactly that at the Power of Intuition Virtual Intensive May 2-3 on Zoom.
More soon.
Have a great rest of your day, and I’ll look forward to connecting again next week.
Joey